Do we need to look at the animal kingdom to understand that courage can be taught?
I believe we do because if we look at eagles you will find an interesting scenario;
- After the eaglets get to a certain maturity, their life changes due to the mother’s actions!
- One day the mother eagle comes back to the nest, with no food in her beak, and she hovers over the nest. She is demonstrating that the wings on the babies’ backs have a useful function because of course eagles were meant to fly.
- Eagles have to be taught, and that’s the mother’s job. So first she just demonstrates.
- The next thing she does is comes into the nest and pushes a little one closer to the edge of the nest.
- Then the mother pushes the little one out of the nest, and the eaglet falls down the face of the cliff, but the mother eagle catches the little one on her back, then flies up and deposits the eaglet back in the nest. The mother bird continues this exercise over and over again.
- The mother eagle does that because those little birds were made to fly, and they don’t know it, so she is going to teach them something they don’t know.
This leads me to this quote that sadly many people can’t comprehend; ‘May you always have the courage to spread your wings and fly.’
What can you do today that will cause you to gain more courage, so that you can spread your winds and fly?
Do you find that you see things differently when you are away from work?
Recently I took 8 days off for some rest and rejuvenation and it worked. I say that because my sense of humor appeared to be working over-time. In this blog I want to share with you a couple of examples of what appealed to my humor, and suggest that you re-examine how you look at life.
The first example I want to speak about is a quote from a Ryan McLean. He stated; “Education is knowing that a tomato is a fruit; wisdom is knowing not to put it in fruit salad.” While this is almost a throw-away quote, when I saw that the simplicity of it appealed to my sense of humor. Of course this can also be said of many people who are in business. They may have all the knowledge, but may not know how to use it effectively for their clients.
The second example just shows how far we have gone off track regarding the use of language. At this place where I went to relax they stated that they had a ‘barrier-free washroom’ on my floor. When I first heard the terminology the thought came to my mind was that the toilet was in the open and not enclosed for privacy. I went to the ‘washroom’ to view it, and needless to say my thoughts about a toilet being in the open were not true. I’ve just got off the internet and I could not find one definition about what a ‘barrier-free washroom’ is. But the whole exercise brings a big smile to my face. Why not explain something as it is?
Yes, these are two very small examples of how my humor has been affected by the little things in life.
Could you improve your life by viewing it differently?
Could you improve your life by viewing it humorously?
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Does apologizing to a specific group of people for a rude comment change things?
In May a ball-player for the Toronto Blue Jays was forced/told to apologize to the LGBTQ community for a ‘slur’ he said during a base-ball game. When I first heard of this I did not understand why he was told to apologize. It seems to me that any person who is rude to another person should apologize because they were disrespectful. Secondly what purpose does it serve to apologize to a group of people, who may not have even been at the ball-game?
Is it that we’ve all become overly-sensitive in this world?
Is it that the owners of the baseball team are thinking of their financial bottom-line?
Is it because they’ve lost sight of the big-picture?
Are you wondering what the big-picture is?
It is the fact that respect needs to be shown to all people in the human race.
A question to consider is; when will we become more respectful to all people?
Have you awoken from the trance that you believe you are doing as good as you can?
Recently I came across this quote by Paula D’Arcy (a psychotherapist, writer, retreat leader, and speaker); she said; “To awaken is to be changed; the spirit within becomes my sight.”
So let’s get back to my question;
- Have you awoken from your trance?
- Have you changed?
- Has the spirit within you become the sight to guide you to a better future?
What can you do today that will jolt you out of your trance?
Is there someone in your life that is creating an issue that you don’t believe is justified?
Recently this has come up while I was doing some work in a large organization. It was obvious that the perpetrator of the accusation was doing all she could to get her ‘boss’ distracted about how little she was doing at work and place the focus on me.
This reminded me of the quotation from Steve Maraboli (speaker, author, and behavioral scientist); “Stop pointing fingers and placing blame on others. Your life can only change to the degree that you accept responsibility for it.”
I’ll conclude with these questions to ask the accuser;
- Are you sure you know all the facts?
- Do you realize that without the facts you are not only trying to hurt me, but you are hurting the entire organization?
- When are you going to start to act more responsible?
Or do you believe that luck is the key to your success?
I would say that you need to be a skillful and a reliable worker to be lucky. That is because luck shows up when you apply yourself.
What do I mean by that? I mean that in order to be a skillful worker you need to apply your skills every day of your life. You also need to be developing new skills and talents in a persistent manner. You need to be reliable. That is not letting the easy actions take presence over the difficult work.
So what can you do today to write the finest chapter in your life?
What can you do to raise your level of success?
Do you think that you are the only one who can do everything right in your business?
If you answered yes to that question, I know you need to re-think that answer. I type that because if you think that you are the only one who can do right in your business, there is a big possibility that you are going to fail.
According to Industry Canada; current survival rates for small and medium-sized businesses in Canada decline over time. About 85 per cent of businesses that enter the marketplace survive one full year, 70 per cent survive for two years and 51 per cent survive for five years.
You may be saying, ˜I am a second-generation business that doesn’t affect me.” Well here are some things you need to be aware of;
- A sense of entitlement – in other words as a new family owner you feel you don’t have to work as hard and learn new ideas to keep growing the business.
- Plain laziness – is usually tied to the first point.
- Lack of interest – when a new family owner is often handed the reigns of an established business a lack of concern can creep in at times.
So no matter the term-length of your business, isn’t it time you become more aware of the challenges you and your business will face?
What are you going to do about them?
Are you asking what type of pain?
The short answer is any pain. I say that because most people have aches and pains in life. We have people that insulted us. We have physical ailments that are causing us issues. We have people in our lives that are causing us pain.
Sadly at times people try to numb their ‘pain’ through different methods such as drugs, alcohol, or other types of risky behavior.
I’ve found due to my own situations it is better to work through the pain. What do I mean by that? It is to go to the root cause as to why there is the pain. Let me give you a few examples;
- We have people that insulted us. So what do we do? We just need to realize that the people that are insulting us are usually people who feel very insecure and are crying out something like; “Please notice me, I need to be significant.” Give them your attention and move on. Don’t fall into their trap!
- We have physical ailments that are causing us issues. So what do you do? Understand that you are not alone in your pain, as many people are suffering from many ailments, but are not complaining. So seek medical help if you don’t have it already. But please remember complaining about it in public will not change the pain at all.
- We have people in our lives that are causing us pain. What do I mean by that? It could be in the form of some sort of physical or mental abuse to you or those close to you. So what do you do? You need to decide on your own what is most important in your life? When you’ve decided on this take action that makes you feel whole again.
Can you see how working through your pain, can make more sense than trying to numb it?
Are you sure?
The reason for this question is that a number of months ago I had the opportunity to interview some very successful small business leaders. I asked them what were the ways that they sabotaged their own organizations. Of course you know that being very success monetarily they were doing a lot of great things. I was intrigued by the answer that came up fairly regularly. It was; ‘My focus. It is easy to get focused on the wrong things for example the mechanics of what we do – production, equipment.’
If these very successful leaders could lose their focus; what about you?
If you said that doesn’t happen regularly, I’d like you to answer this question; what are two ways that you can keep the goals of your organization more in focus?
In other words, are you very concerned about what will happen for you financially?
Has this become a constant pressure on your life? How has that affected you?
Over the years I’ve found that when I put extra pressure on myself to perform, the extra pressure has caused me to become more stressed and thus resulted in me not being the person I was created to be. At time I felt that I had become a self-centered ego-maniac who only thought about himself.
It is my hope that you don’t fall into that trap. If you do, what can you do about it?
I’d offer the following suggestions;
- Be aware of who you are when you are writing the best chapter in your life.
- Ask those very close to you to also make you aware of when you are not the person they love.
- Spend 5 to 10 minutes at the end of the day looking at your actions and evaluate your own behavior.
When you will you do this?
Your future depends on this, doesn’t it?