Do you have negative friends?

How many of your friends appear to be discouraged daily?

While many of us (including me) believe that we can raise the spirits of others, is it time we re-think that?

I ask that because research has shown that successful people have let go of the negative people who were in their lives. They feel that they have to cut their losses and move on. When I read this article some time ago I was taken back by it because of my idea that I could raise the spirits of anyone.

It appears that the only time those successful friends of yours and mine are even interested in hanging out with the negatives ones is when the negative attitude ones have decided to make a commitment to change their ways. Due to this commitment the successful people are willing to do all they can to help the negative people dig themselves out of their hole.

So what can you do today that will free yourself from a negative person?

Can you do it showing dignity to that person?

Posted in discouraged, friends, move on, negative, research

Are you really happy?

Could you be happier?

Do you think that the collection or purchase of things will make you happier?

According to an article from the University of California – Berkley campus… ‘researchers think of happiness as having satisfaction and meaning in your life. It’s not pleasure on a constant basis, but it is the ability to connect with others on a deeper basis in order to have meaningful relationships, which ultimately leads to optimistic or hopeful emotions.’

What can you do today that will lead you to being really happy?

What can you do today that will help you to connect with others on a deeper basis?

Posted in happier, happiness, happy, University of California – Berkley

Have you lost your sense of joy?

Are you asking what a sense of joy is?

To me a sense of joy is best shown by children, especially younger children. They see things with eyes that are inquisitive and are eager to find out more about what they are seeing or hearing. I suspect the reason is that as we age many of the things in life become rather boring and we become unconcerned for these things.

But why is that?

Have we lost our sense of adventure?

Have we lost our inquisitiveness?

What can you do to avoid losing your sense of joy?

Posted in adventure, inquisitiveness, joy

Can one person change your life?

Can one person irritate you so much that you decide against taking an action?

I bring this up because recently I over-heard a few people saying that they won’t go to the U.S. because of President Trump. The first thing that came to my mind was how short-sighted these people were. They were going to let one person change their life.

As much as I hate the word, these people were acting intolerant. This means that they were not open-minded of views, beliefs, or behavior that differs from one’s own.

This is a sad situation for anyone isn’t it?

Has this intolerance crept into your life?

What can you do to change it?

Posted in change their life, intolerant, one person, Trump, U.S. President

Who are your friends?

Who are your close friends, you know, the one’s that you can count on?

I bring this up as many people between the ages of 12 and 30 think that because they have 100’s of FaceBook friends they have friendships. In my opinion friendships bring encouragement and joy and at times bring challenges to the relationship.

It is important however that if challenges occur in a friendship the connection in the relationship is strong and mature enough to work the situation out.

Considering my explanation how many friends do you really have?

What can you do to improve those friendships?

Posted in challenges, encouragement, Facebook, friends, friendship

What do you celebrate?

Do you celebrate only strength and achievement?

Wouldn’t it make more sense to celebrate those that work selflessly to help us with the things we take for granted?

Have you celebrated the health you have?

Have you celebrated the ability you have to speak and listen?

Do you celebrated the life you have?

Do you think today would be a good day to start doing these mini-celebrations?

Posted in achievements, celebrate, health, life, strength

Have our Governments gone mad?

Have they lost the ability to say ‘no’ to those who are living a fairy tale?

Let me give you an example. Recently a baby in British Columbia was issued which may be the first health card in history without a gender identified. Instead of identifying male or female, the baby’s health card reads U which according to the press release stands most likely, for unspecified. The baby’s parent, Kori Doty told reporters, “I do not gender my child.”

Truer words could not have been spoken!

I state that because gender identity is not assigned by the person or the parent. Our gender is decided by our DNA. In fact the clear-cut factor that DNA can tell you is whether someone is male or female. In the simplest explanation all you need to know is whether they have X and Y chromosomes, which makes the person male or a pair of X’s which makes the person female.

My concluding questions for you are;

  • Are you going to keep putting up with this?
  • What will you do about it?

Remember if you do nothing, you are part of the problem aren’t you?

Posted in DNA, gender identification, Governments, health card

Do others see the world as you do?

Do you think they should?

Why is it that at times we assume that other people see the world as we do?

  • Do you think that you are the only one who is right?
  • Do you think that the way your society is, is the only way things should be?

If you answered ‘yes’ to either one of those questions I know it is time that you reconsider these assumptions. Remember that the definition of assumption is a thing that is accepted as true or as certain to happen, without proof. The key words in the definition are without proof. You and I have no proof that we are the only ones that are right!

So what is the solution?

Wouldn’t more discussion be a good start?

Wouldn’t it be good to understand another person before we even try to impose our views on them?

Posted in assumptions, discussion, impose, understand, views

What leads to happiness?

Is it the collection of ‘things’? Or is it really possible to find happiness?

I believe that you will agree that every person wants to be happy. I also believe that the search for happiness bonds us as human beings. Sadly, I see that we live in a world that seems tailor-made for unhappiness. We have a world with disease, injustice, war, death, and adversity of every kind.

Many in the medical profession such as psychologists, and psychiatrists, and numerous other thinkers believe that the cause of most unhappiness occurs because we have such a restricted understanding of our purpose as humans.

This became very obvious to me when I heard this statement; ‘Why would she leave all of this?’ It was a person stating that she didn’t understand why her daughter-in-law left her son just before their 25th wedding anniversary.

Yes, it was obvious that over their years of marriage that they had accumulated a lot of things. And if it was true that collecting stuff during a marriage lead to happiness then we should have very few or no divorces in North America, isn’t it?

So what leads to happiness?

I know that one level of happiness is commitment and contribution to others. Just consider the story I just typed out. Yes, this couple had all the stuff they needed and then some. But she left! Can you see how commitment and contribution to her from her husband could have made a difference?

Is this something you can take into your own relationship?

Would this raise your happiness level?

Would this lead to more happiness?

Posted in commitment, contribution, happiness, humans, purpose

Is judging things bad?

Is it instinctive to judge things and people?

The other day I was watching a T.V. program about the people who protect the borders of our country. The border patrol officer stated; ‘I’m not here to judge.’ I laughed out loud because if he is not judging what is he doing as a border patrol officer.

Let me ask you some questions first;

  • Is it okay to use our minds to make a judgment?
  • Are you a mean bigoted person if you make a judgment?

If I was to look outside and see that it is raining very hard and I decided to take an umbrella with me, am I a mean and bigoted person? Of course not! We were given a mind so that we could make rational judgments all through the day.

Another question;

  • Is it okay to use your mind to make a judgment about another person’s actions?

For example if I see my 7 year old grand-daughter driving her bike erratically on a busy street, can I use my mind and tell her that it is not good for her and it is even dangerous? Of course!

So why would a border patrol officer make such a ludicrous or comical statement as ‘I’m not here to judge.’?

I believe it is because we as a society have lost our sense of understanding that it is natural that we do judge others and things because we were made that way. If we see someone doing something that will hurt them either now or long-term, what is wrong with telling them that? It is because we love or care for them.

As for the border patrol officer, if he doesn’t make judgments the security of our country is at risk. If he doesn’t make judgments he is stating that he doesn’t care for the security of our country.

You’d agree that it is okay to make judgments, wouldn’t you?

Posted in bigoted, border patrol officer, judge, judgment, mean, person