What does it mean to be honorable?

Do you think honorable is when you are honored?

It is my understanding that being honorable is bringing or worthy of honor. In other words, you can bring honor to others and you can be worthy of being honored due to what you have done or been. I am going to avoid how we can bring honor to our selves, as us humans try to do that every moment of our days. But, how do you honor others?

  • Pay them a sincere compliment
  • Treat them with respect
  • Be patient  
  • Overlook the mistakes you think they’ve made
  • Forgive
  • Show genuine compassion
  • Celebrate their accomplishments

These seven examples are just a start.

What more can you do to be honorable to others?    

Does identity politics upset you?

Did you know that identity politics has made human beings with individual hopes and dreams into commodities?

I say that because when we let our politicians label us and pander to us on our very self-centered needs we all lose. Yes, I am talking about special interest groups and ‘their’ needs. When we buy in to having our very self-centered interests met we have bought into group think. Group think is the scenario when one person speaks for the interests of all of a particular group of people. Group think is the scenario when you only associate with people who are your kind of people. Group think is when you only share ideas with those who you know will agree with you.

We need to move away from identity politics and group think. We need to be people who understand that the needs of all are more important than the needs of a few. We need to understand what is good for all of us.

What can you do today that will move our society and our country to looking out for the needs of all people, not just those with special interests?

Is time a magical thing?

Does it heal wounds or transform us?

I bring this up due to an article in a magazine that proposed that time is magical and it heals wounds and transforms us. What utter nonsense!

Time is not magical, we all have 24 hours in a day and if we don’t use it to our advantage we’ve wasted it, we’ve lost the 24 hours that we’ve been blessed with and the opportunity that we could have used for the betterment of the society that we live in.

Time does not heal wounds, just ask the parent who had a child die. The hurt that is left in that parent is immense. Just think about the mother because they have carried that child inside themselves for 9 months and was part of every decision they made during that time.

Time does not transform us, we transform ourselves by the action we take to improve our lives. No, we can’t sit and wait for time to transform us, we are the only ones who can change our minds from a negative perspective and take action.

What will you do with the time you have today?

Will you use it to transform your life and the lives of those who are important to you?

Do you use your brain?

Do you do intellectually stimulating things?

What is the impact on you long-term if that is not happening?

A former President of the United States Calvin Coolidge once stated; “All growth depends upon activity. There is no development physically or intellectually without effort, and effort means work.” It is my argument that in order for anything to be intellectually stimulating it must involve action. This is because we can not grow intellectually by doing nothing.

What action item can you add to your daily activities that will move you on to greater ideas and actions?

When do you get your best ideas?

Do they come when things are very loud or do the ideas come when you are in a time of silence?

For those of you who do not like silence, I’d like you to consider this quote by William S. Burroughs, he stated; “Silence is only frightening to people who are compulsively verbalizing.”

For those of you who think silence is inferior to other actions, consider what Lao Tzu said; “Silence is a source of Great Strength.”  

Before I conclude I would like to share a quote with you that was just made aware to me. It is by Geoffrey M. Gluckman. It is, “Feel your emotions, Live true your passions, Keep still your mind.”

Now to conclude; if you are not getting new ideas on a regular basis and you must be living a hectic life, doesn’t it make sense to go into the silence and listen to the whispers?

Are you committed to your career?

Have you proven your commitment to your self and at least one other person lately?

What have you done that proves it?

What more could you do?

What is in your future?

Will you be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do? Or will you be happy about the things that you took action on?

I hope it is that you are happier about all the action you took.

Lately I’ve witnessed some people that took the safe way to achieve what they needed. To me this is like coasting down-hill. It is so easy, but you never get back to the top again.

What is it that you dream on achieving?

Does it stretch you as a person?

What can you take action on today that will move you closer to the future you dream about?

What does your language tell others?

Does it say you are honest or are you hiding the truth?

I bring this up because I witnessed the most atrocious use of language a while back that still bothers me today. A Judge asked the accused if she had pushed the person. The accused stated; ‘I didn’t push her, I replaced her location.’ Now just consider what she said. She just used her words to massage what she did so that she would appear better. But at the same time – she lied.

Do you have a tendency to use your words to make yourself look better?

Do you tell the truth or are you a liar?

Your words can have a long-term affect on how people view you, don’t they?

What do leaders do?

Do they manage the organizations business or do they think and talk about solutions?

After all these years in speaking to business leaders, I know without a doubt that leaders think and talk about solutions. Why I say that is because a leader is always interested in improvement – they hate the status quo. They know that they are in the position they are in because people saw in them a ‘reach for the starts’ attitude.

With a reach for the stars attitude a person is never satisfied with what took place before. They know that a small adjustment can be made to help the organization grow and improve.

Do you want to be known as a leader?

What is one small adjustment that you can make in your self that will help your organization be better today that it was yesterday?

Why do people act entitled?

Do you know someone who feels they are due particular things that others aren’t?

For your information, entitlement is a belief that a person feels that they are basically deserving of privileges or special treatment. These types of people are often rude and self-centered aren’t they? Recently I came across this quote by an Art Rainer‏ who said; “Once one realizes they are entitled to nothing, they become grateful for everything.”

Now a few questions for you;

  • Who would you rather associate with a person who acts entitled or a person who is grateful for everything?
  • What can you do to avoid falling into the entitlement trap?