Does imposing your rules help?

Does it help the other people?

Probably not! But we humans like to think we know it all. We also like to control all of the situations in our life.

When you consider imposing our rules on others and then wanting to control all of the situations in our life, what does it say about us as thinking people?

To me it says that we are lazy and don’t like to think, and let me tell you why. Number one if you are imposing your rules on others; you want them to fit into your view of the way life should be. Number two the controlling means that you are somewhat insecure and by controlling others you think your life is the only the way it should be. This is a sad situation because you will never grow and expand from where you are today.

Is this the life you want to live?

Are you living life as a fake?

Or are you letting your true self become known to others?

I think you would agree that many times in our life our true self has not been the person we would have liked to have been shown to others. But I am not talking about a melt down or day when you just weren’t happy. What I am talking about is taking on false labels in order to make ourselves look better than someone else.

I like what actress Vivien Leigh said many years ago; “I’m not a film star, I am an actress. Being a film star is such a false life, lived for fake values and for publicity.”

Can you learn something from what she said?

If you do it will help you become your true self, won’t it?

Where do the best lessons come from?

Isn’t failure the best opportunity to get a valuable lesson from?

As Bill Gates has said; “It’s fine to celebrate success but it is more important to heed the lessons of failure.”

What is the biggest failure you’ve ever had?

What is the lesson you got from it?

Have you put that lesson into action?

How will it make your life better?

Do you ignore the rat race?

Have you noticed that your life has a lot of meaningless nonsense in it?

Yes, the meaningless nonsense and the rat race are related.

Do you have people in your life that are in constant turmoil? They are the rat race that you need to move on from.

Do you have incidents in your life that come up at the most inconvenient times and just cause you grief? Are these incidents meaningless nonsense or are they situations that need your attention because of those involved? There is a difference in them, aren’t there?

I wrote this blog because I’ve witnessed many people getting caught in the rat race and meaningless nonsense lately and they did not know what to do.

What will you do the next time either of things happen in your life?

Do you pay yourself first?

Are you investing in yourself and your future?

Years ago I was in the financial service industry and there was a slogan about ‘paying yourself first’. In other words make a deposit in your retirement account before you spend the balance on your money on everything else.

I would like to make a different suggestion for you. Why don’t you pay yourself first when it comes to personal improvement?

When was the last time you took a course to help you get better?

When was the last time you enrolled in an exercise program to get healthier?

Have you bought a CD or DVD set that would improve your ability in your life lately?

Would today be a good day to start this?

What is better to create or to buy?

Wouldn’t it be better to create, that is create your future?

I write this blog because we’ve made a decision recently. In our household we have gone to the basic cable T.V. package. We know that by reducing the amount of television channel options in our life we have created extra time for ourselves. We have also eliminated the incessant or relentless commercials made to prompt us to buy things. The main reason for reducing our screen intake is that it will give us more time to create a life for ourselves.

Yes, creating a life for our selves can mean a lot of things, for example;

  • Getting more involved in a hobby.
  • Creating a new and updated plan for your business.
  • Having more time for friends or family.
  • Contributing more to your community.

What can you create with more focused time?

How do you handle your time-wasters?

Do you put up with them or are you trying to get rid of them?

I want to take you on a visualization exercise right now. Think of a time 30 years from now. I want you to think of a time 30 years from now and you are either in retirement or getting close.

Now ask yourself, what are the things you wish you should have done?

What are the areas in your life that you might have experienced better conditions?

Why didn’t they happen?

Did you sit on your past accomplishments?

Did you procrastinate and waste your time, when you could have worked towards these things you could have done?

What could you have done better?

Now come back to today.

What can you do today that you know you could do better?

Today’s a good day to take action in this, isn’t it?

Do you have negative friends?

How many of your friends appear to be discouraged daily?

While many of us (including me) believe that we can raise the spirits of others, is it time we re-think that?

I ask that because research has shown that successful people have let go of the negative people who were in their lives. They feel that they have to cut their losses and move on. When I read this article some time ago I was taken back by it because of my idea that I could raise the spirits of anyone.

It appears that the only time those successful friends of yours and mine are even interested in hanging out with the negatives ones is when the negative attitude ones have decided to make a commitment to change their ways. Due to this commitment the successful people are willing to do all they can to help the negative people dig themselves out of their hole.

So what can you do today that will free yourself from a negative person?

Can you do it showing dignity to that person?

Are you really happy?

Could you be happier?

Do you think that the collection or purchase of things will make you happier?

According to an article from the University of California – Berkley campus… ‘researchers think of happiness as having satisfaction and meaning in your life. It’s not pleasure on a constant basis, but it is the ability to connect with others on a deeper basis in order to have meaningful relationships, which ultimately leads to optimistic or hopeful emotions.’

What can you do today that will lead you to being really happy?

What can you do today that will help you to connect with others on a deeper basis?

Have you lost your sense of joy?

Are you asking what a sense of joy is?

To me a sense of joy is best shown by children, especially younger children. They see things with eyes that are inquisitive and are eager to find out more about what they are seeing or hearing. I suspect the reason is that as we age many of the things in life become rather boring and we become unconcerned for these things.

But why is that?

Have we lost our sense of adventure?

Have we lost our inquisitiveness?

What can you do to avoid losing your sense of joy?