Do you remember Vester Flanagan?

Do you recall that he was the man who murdered a reporter and a cameraman on live television on August 26, 2015 in Virginia?

Why would I even want to talk about this person?

I believe it is important to understand human beings, so when I heard that his former news director described him as someone who constantly saw himself as a victim, it stunned me. Stunned is a funny word to use, but that is what I felt. When people fall into the self victimizing scenario it means that the person believes that they have no control over areas of their life. These areas include their emotions, their spouse, their family, or their income. If you know of someone continually being angry, or upset about the events in their life; it speaks volumes about their ability to live with a sense of wellbeing and contentment.

What can you do if you are with a person who lives a self-victimizing life? My first suggestion is harsh – run for your life. If you can’t do that you need some help in the area of becoming more resilient to the constant bombardment from the self-victimizing person. Are you saying ‘I’m not the person that needs help.” That is true, but remember this; you are the only one who would be open to getting help, as the self-victimizing person believes nothing is their fault.

To conclude I’ll ask these questions;

• Are you with a self-victimizing person?
• Who could you speak to help you with this challenge?