How would you explain the ‘gender identity’ issues to a young person? (part 2)

In part 1 of this blog, I reviewed a Tik Tok video of a person that uses color-coded bracelets to help her friends identify her pronouns. Then I decided to look at the situation using Rotary International’s 4-Way Test.

Next you have to look at the truth, and you have to ask the question; how many genders are there? Nearly everyone in school biology learned that if you’ve got XX chromosomes, you’re a female; if you’ve got XY, you’re a male. I’ve used this explanation because we hear it so often that we must honor the science in discussion about climate change or the COVID-19 issue. So, I am following specific and proven knowledge about human gender. Just consider this fact; when we are born the doctor will identify whether you had a baby boy or a baby girl by seeing their body parts. Yes, your own biology plays an important role as to how you can identify your gender.

You’ve got to understand that even if a political party proclaims something; it is usually done only for political purposes, it usually not based on facts. It is only for one reason, that is getting more votes in the next election. So, they say many things, but you always have to go back to one question; Is it the truth? It is the same when singer Demi Lovato comes out a non-binary (meaning people don’t identify with the gender they were born with), and then states that her pronouns are ‘they’ and ‘them’. It is mind-blowing for me to think that a person, who has got talent, is paid millions of dollars to perform; and thinks that she can change the definition of words. Tell me, how could an individual be known as more than one person (she wants to be known as they and them)? We need to ask why a person would make these types of statements, which I will do later.

As we have already covered the third question, let’s move on to the last question; Will it be beneficial to all concerned? As you know beneficial means have helpful effects. So, what is being helpful? When I think of my 12-year-old grand-daughter and being helpful to her, it means being honest and not attempting to lie or just echo what the press says. For example, recently there was a Hollywood starlet that came out as male, and changed her pronouns and had reconstructive surgery performed. She could do this because she has the money and the notoriety. And of course, the press picked right up on it without a question about the truth or if their announcement would be beneficial to those that hear the news story. Why have the press forgotten about fact-checking?

It is my opinion that the press has been either bought by the politicians and Hollywood or are just lazy. In other words, they never question what is being said. This is very poor behavior, and will lead to more and more people just ignoring their stories. It is their decision, but a very poor decision. And yet as negative as this is, it is positive and gives parents all over the world a chance to talk to their children about the situation.

With this we need to look at the reasons why we take our human actions and the reasons for those actions. This is found in Human Needs Psychology.

Human Needs Psychology has uncovered the Needs that every person has. The first four Needs are Psychological Needs. They are;

• Certainty, which is the need for security.
• Variety, which is the need for change, stimulation and challenge.
• Significance, which is all about being valued or recognized.
• Love or Connection, is the need to connect with others and to be loved and to love.

The last 2 Needs are Spiritual Needs and sadly some people don’t have these needs. They are;

• Growth, which is the need to grow and improve in character and spirit.
• Contribution, which is the need to help other, to give and to make a difference.

Earlier I talked about having compassion for someone who has decided that they are ‘gender fluid’ or are questioning their ‘gender identity’. As you can see, they are doing all they can to meet their Human Needs by their actions. You may not agree with their announcements, but as human beings we have to be compassionate and caring people for them.

Now consider this; would you say that within humans we have many elements that wrestle with each other?

Let’s consider the scenario of gender fluidity. Let’s say that it gives that person significance. Do you think that a person who wants to be significant all the time will form a connection with others that is long lasting? Of course not! This is because when you want to be significant, life is all about you. And what that means is that those near you will move away from you and your significance because they are not able to have any form of a connection or love with you.

It is my hope that this blog has helped you understand why the gender issue is based on human needs, not based on biology or fact.

Does this make sense to you?