What is forgiveness to you?

Is it just forgetting about what took place before?

I don’t believe that is true? I type this because we humans have memories and if something hurt you deep, it seems like it has been embedded in our long-term memory. So forgetting something completely probably is not possible.

But that leads to my initial question; what is forgiveness?

I believe forgiveness is moving on from that deeply hurt memory. It is allowing yourself to be free or not be enslaved by the resentment of having been hurt. It is all about accepting that you have been hurt, but believing that you can move on and live the finest chapter in your life.

So what do you do?

• First of all it is not easy as if you have held on to the hurt for along time, you need to lessen your grip on it. You can do this by catching yourself when you feel the hurt entering into your consciousness.
• Secondly, you need to take action to develop an understanding that the only reason why this hurtful situation may have occurred is because the person who did it to you had a reason for doing it, and it may not have been originally thought out as hurtful. Now this is a challenge I know, but if you search deeply you will find the positive intent.
• If you are still having difficulty in finding the positive intent contact me and I will be able to help you through this challenge. E-mail me at tim@theresiliencedoctor.com

This process will help you overcome the hurt, won’t it?